Resilience

Resilience is the psychological quality that allows some people to be knocked down by the adversities of life and come back at least as strong as before. Rather than letting difficulties, traumatic events, or failure overcome them and drain their resolve, highly resilient people find a way to change course, emotionally heal, and continue moving toward their goals.

What Creates Resilience

Psychologists have identified some of the factors that appear to make a person more resilient, such as a positive attitude, optimism, the ability to regulate emotions, and the ability to see failure as a form of helpful feedback.

Optimism, for instance, has been shown to help blunt the impact of stress on the mind and body in the wake of disturbing experiences. That gives people access to their own cognitive resources, enabling cool-headed analysis of what might have gone wrong and consideration of behavioral paths that might be more productive.

Other aspects of resilience’s roots remain under study. There does appear to be a genetic predisposition for resilience, for instance; but early environments and life circumstances play a role in how resilient genes are ultimately expressed.

Can resilience be taught?

Many factors that determine resilience—such as genetics, early life experiences, and luck—can’t be modified. But specific resilience-building skills can be learned. These include, breaking out of negative thought cycles, pushing back against catastrophizing, and looking for upsides when faced with setbacks.

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Amidst the debris

Old rusty cans and brambles

One golden crocus

L.M.D.

“On the other side of a storm is the strength that comes from having navigated through it. Raise your sail and begin.”
― Gregory S. Williams

Authenticity

“To find yourself, think for yourself.” – Socrates

 “Honesty and transparency make you vulnerable. Be honest and transparent anyway.” – Mother Theresa

“Being honest may not get you many friends, but it’ll always get you the right ones.” – John Lennon

 “Authenticity is about being true to who you are, even when everyone around you wants you to be someone else.” – Michael Jordon

“I’ve always loved the idea of not being what people expect me to be.” – Dita Von Teese

“Be yourself, everyone else is taken.” – Oscar Wilde

Don’t worry about the things you can’t control. But there are a few things that you control, and that will help you live a happy life.

Source: Life Hacks

Here Are 26 Things You Can Control

Your attitude

Your thoughts

Your perspective

How honest you are

Who your friends are

What books you read

How often you exercise

The type of food you eat

How many risks you take

How you interpret the situation

How kind you are to others

How kind you are to yourself

How often you say “I love you.”

How often you say “thank you.”

How you express your feelings

Whether or not you ask for help

How often you practice gratitude

How many times you smile

The amount of effort you put forth

How you spend / invest your money

How much time you spend worrying

How often you think about your past

Whether or not you judge other people

Whether or not you try again after a setback

How much you appreciate the things you have